Dansons: 1 Would you like to dance with me?
“Unlike the female version of their first dance with prince charming, the male versions of their first dance tends to be overwhelmingly disastrous. This is due to the fact that the man must lead. Whereby a newbie lady at a ball will often get asked by a very experienced gentleman to dance, a newbie man is left to fend for himself and work up the courage to ask whoever they can find for a dance.”
I remember pumping myself up for the small ball/dance party, getting ready, putting on my best dress shrit, pants and shoes. Little did I know that no preparation could’ve prepared me for the confidence hit associated with this night. Everyone got up and danced… Except for me, I semi danced… Like a zombie.
What’s a good strategy I should’ve done is that I should’ve brought some friends like you’d do when you go out clubbing, but reality says that it’s almost impossible to drag a male friend along to a dance party (at least for me anyway). I wanted to bail out, but I was already too hooked to step down. So instead of a night out with school friends, I opted to sit alone watching people dance.
Back then, I wished that I had someone like the current me who brings me around and be there for my first party. Which is a type of service I am performing for my friends today. It is a stressful environment and like a cat to a new environment, they need a zone of comfort to return to after they get shot down by their new discoveries.
Up until today, I can always tell when it’s a guy’s first time asking a girl to dance. You can see the nervousness in their stance and the constant fiddling with their hair to look perfect. They will stand beside the dance floor like a cactus sticking out from the desert floor, hoping that by proximity along they can accidently ask a girl to dance. But the clearest indication of the guy’s noobness is still the sweaty hand swipe on their pants right before they hold out their hand and tackle a girl from behind to ask her to dance. Too close for comfort and often startling the girl with their invitation out of nowhere. The startling part I kept till today, I enjoy seeing them off balance. The sweaty palm however, I’ve let it go long ago.
Looking back, I think asking a girl to dance is even more Seriously speaking from experience today. I think this is a crucial point in determining whether a guy will stick with dancing, because this feeling will come back time after time as you progress to the next level. You never get rid of this feeling, you just got used to rejection knowing that it is as normal and inconsequential as acceptance.
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