How to make friends

I think I’ve understood how to make friends: time and respect. In my past, because of constant moving, I am constantly thrown into strange environments where I don’t know anyone. The feeling this brings up is always that of loneliness and rejection. And as living beings, we compensate our behavior to fit our environment. I can either shut myself completely from the world, or become super aggressive at making new friends. The latter is the personality I’ve adopted. Little did I know, that my zeal to make contact only serves to scare people away.